At a friend’s gathering a few weeks ago, a mutual friend in a group secretly whispered to me and told me that another friend of ours has finally moved on from his previous job to a current role in another organization.
It kind of took me by surprise, as I thought he really liked the working environment and had great camaraderie with his colleagues at his previous workplace.
Well, I guess the monetary benefits for the new role must have been pretty attractive then, I thought aloud.
“You’re right!”, my friend retorted. “He has to save up to buy a really expensive engagement ring. Apparently, his girlfriend will not consider anything less than a 1 carat.”
Ok, I have to make a slight confession here. I know nuts about diamonds. I do not deny that they look pretty, but I don’t quite know the language, so all the 4Cs, whatever they mean or how big 1 carat actually is, I have no idea. I had to ask Dave about it after the gathering, and also did a bit of Wikipedia work after that.
But anyways, what I found out is that the engagement ring that he was eyeing cost a whopping $15,000!!!
I was taken aback!! I mean$15,000 for just a ring?
I would rather take the equivalent of the cash amount.
Ok I’m an unromantic.
I’m a pragmatist.
I mean a $15,000 ring!!! Would you even wear it? I wont’t!!! For fear of losing it. Can you imagine the stress level that comes with it?
Secondly, it’s freaking $15,000!!! Rather than spending it on a ring, I would rather use it to invest, or it can even finance multiple holiday trips! Or even the down payment for the new house. But giving it to me in the form of a rock?? No thanks.
Of course, that’s just me and it’s a demand and supply market. There won’t be a supply if there’s no demand for it.
Another friend at the gathering commented that the amount that you spent doesn’t matter as much. It is the fraction of the salary that you spend on it that reflects the sincerity. For example, if you earn $2,000 a month and buy a ring for $1,000 vs someone who earns $8000 and spend $2000 on a ring, the guy who earns $2,000 has more sincerity.
I find that a really warped up logic! (Sorry my friend, I still love you but I don’t really agree with this point). I mean really? Women are not that shallow. I am not going to say this on behalf of all women in the world but really, your girlfriend is not going to decide whether or not she’s going to accept your proposal based on what percentage of your salary you spend on the ring.
And guys seriously, do you really want to marry a materialistic girl who is only looking at the size of the ring?
Well there’s no right or wrong answer I guess. It’s just some food for thought.
Curious to hear what you guys think.